EULOGIES & OBITUARIES

Tips for Writing Obituaries & Eulogies

Eulogies

Delivering a heartfelt eulogy can feel overwhelming, even for confident speakers. How do you sum up an entire life in just a few minutes—balancing heartfelt memories with lighthearted moments? Writing and sharing a eulogy can be both healing and meaningful, and being asked to give one is a true honor. Here are some helpful tips to guide you:

1. Collect memories and details.
Talk with close family members, friends, and colleagues to gather meaningful stories and information. Think about important relationships, career milestones, hobbies, travels, and special achievements that defined the person’s life.

2. Organize your ideas.
Start by jotting down memories and key points. Once you have a collection of thoughts, create a simple outline to help you shape your speech.

3. Write it out.
Unlike casual speeches, a eulogy should be carefully written. Having it on paper ensures you include everything you want to say. Print it in a large font or space out handwritten lines for easier reading. Aim for a length that’s respectful of time—especially if there are multiple speakers.

4. Edit and refine.
Your first draft doesn’t need to be perfect. Set it aside and review it later with fresh eyes. Small revisions often make a big difference in clarity and flow.

5. Practice your delivery.
Read through your eulogy several times to feel comfortable with the words. Practice in front of a mirror or with trusted family or friends who can offer feedback.

6. Add light humor (if appropriate).
Sharing a warm, funny story can bring smiles and comfort. Just keep it respectful and appropriate for all ages present.

7. Show emotion.
It’s okay to cry or pause—it’s a sign of love and connection. If you’re worried about being too emotional, consider having someone you trust prepared to step in and read your words.

8. Prepare essentials.
Keep a glass of water nearby and tissues on hand.

Obituaries

Writing an obituary is both a loving tribute and a way to inform others of a loss. Begin by gathering details from family and friends, including childhood memories, education, career, hobbies, and any special accomplishments. The funeral home can provide details about service times, locations, and other arrangements.



Here’s a simple obituary template you can customize:

[Full Name], [Age], of [City, State], passed away on [Date of Death] at [Location].

Funeral services will be held at [Location] on [Date] at [Time], with [Clergy Name] officiating. Burial will follow at [Cemetery Name], [Cemetery Location]. Visitation will take place at [Location] on [Date] at [Time]. [Funeral Home Name] is handling arrangements.

[First Name] was born on [Date of Birth] in [Place of Birth] to [Parent Names]. [He/She] graduated from [School] in [Year] and went on to [career/education highlights]. [He/She] enjoyed [hobbies, passions, or activities], received [awards/honors], and was involved in [organizations/charities].

[First Name] is survived by [list immediate family, such as spouse, children, siblings]. [He/She] was preceded in death by [list predeceased family members].

In lieu of flowers, memorial contributions may be made to [Organization Name]. The family wishes to thank [specific people, groups, or caregivers] for their support.

Note: Many newspapers charge per word, so keep your obituary concise but meaningful. Feel free to personalize this template to best reflect your loved one’s life.